I’m just going to go ahead and get this little rant off my chest. I’m 51 years old, and I do everything in my power to live in the present. What I’ve discovered of late is there are A LOT of people who literally attempt to make me feel bad (shaming) because I live in the present. Because I live fit, because I want the best of what’s left of my life to be positive.
Let’s dig a little deeper than surface level today.
What I mean by my comment is, there are people who are so trapped in their victim behavior, even still playing the victim years after being divorced, fired, cheated on, being financially swindled, you name it.
They are so miserable, they want me to have a bad day too. They want me to fail in my goals of long-term change. Because they have chosen not to move forward, they want me to stay in the same place with them. They may not even realize what they are doing, but thankfully I DO.
And have I’ve got news for you.
If you don’t make the conscious choice get over it, you will never move forward. And for that matter you will never be able to enjoy your present life because you are holding on to bitterness and grudges.
You may ask, what makes me so special that I feel perfectly comfortable in saying these things?
Well, for starters I’ve done it. I’ve gotten over myself enough to look deep in to the dark recesses of my past enough to acknowledge that I played a key role in the incidences that occurred and heck yeah, I screwed up plenty in my day.
I moved forward, I sought forgiveness where I could, I wrote letters and burned them where I couldn’t ask forgiveness. And then, I moved on. I’m no saint, but I practice what I preach.
This time of year especially fires up my thoughts on long-term change. I’ve said this before. People who refuse to let go of the past are waiting for some hero to come in.
Hear this, because it’s really important. NO-ONE is going to swoop in and change things for you.
I see it all the time. People making lists of goals and changes they want to make and two weeks later when the darkness creeps in after a horrible workout, motivation wains, pity begins to flare up, and forward progress screeches to a halt, and the blame game begins again. If I hadn’t been done wrong 5-10-20 years ago when this, that,or the other happened, I would be able to do it.
Oh sure, you may meet Mr. or Mrs. Right Now. And you may have happiness and joy for a little while. But if you don’t deal with the inner darkness that constantly wants to pull you right back to square one, you’ll stay stuck there. Relationships will suffer, self-esteem will suffer, YOU will suffer, because if YOU don’t think your good enough for greatness, no-one else will either.
Stop letting things from years ago ruin your today and your tomorrow’s.
We all have pain, we all have sorrow, but it’s our choice to move. It’s frightening at first, but eventually you’ll find joy in your heart and the ability to receive the goodness that is there. The goodness you currently can’t see because you’re looking in that little review mirror instead of looking forward through that big wide windshield.